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Disputing

The most powerful technique to turn a negative belief around is disputing.  When you dispute a negative belief, you argue with yourself by asking three basic questions.

1. What is the evidence for this belief?

When you jump to a conclusion based on a negative belief, you tend to jump over evidence that, had you considered it, might have led you to a different conclusion.

2. Is the belief sensible?

Negative beliefs are often based on distorted logic.

3. Is this thinking useful?

Sometimes beliefs are destructive and serve no useful purpose.

A B C D E

To practise disputing, extend the ABC model (Activating Event, Belief, Consequences) by adding D and E.  D stands for dispute, E stands for effect.

Activating Event: This is the negative event that triggers the emotion.

Belief: We react to activating events by thinking about them.  These thoughts turn into beliefs.

Consequences: Our beliefs have consequences.  These are what we do next.

Disputation: To turn a negative belief around, dispute it.

To dispute a negative belief ask:

• What is the evidence for this belief?
• Is the belief sensible?
• Is this thinking useful?

Effect:The effect of disputing is the renewed confidence and energy that flows from getting rid of destructive negative thoughts.

Practice Disputing

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